Quit These Habits Now for a Happier Future
As we grow older, the bright outlook we once had as children often fades. Life brings challenges like money troubles, broken relationships, loss, and other difficult experiences that come with time. Along the way, we also tend to develop habits that only make things harder. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. If you want to feel more content as you age, start by letting go of these 12 behaviors:
1. Stop ignoring your health.
Your health is your most valuable asset. Every part of your life depends on how well you are—physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s tough to feel happy when you’re constantly unwell. Is it possible? Yes. But it’s much more difficult. So whenever you can, make choices that strengthen and support your body and mind instead of draining them.
2. Stop avoiding change.
The tides of life change. Sometimes you’ll be high, sometimes you’ll be low, but you’ll cause yourself so much suffering if you don’t learn to ride the waves. For example, let’s say you’re in a relationship you know isn’t right, but you stay because you don’t want to face a big change. That’s years you could’ve used to improve yourself, years both of you could’ve spent in a better-suited relationship and years you’ve spent accepting a life of unhappiness.
3. Stop holding on to the past.
The past is finished and cannot be changed. No words or actions will ever alter what has already happened. When you dwell on what’s behind you, you rob yourself of the opportunity to create a better today and a brighter tomorrow. Let go of what’s gone, and put your energy into making positive changes in the present moment.
4. Let go of grudges.
To be clear, this means releasing the small, everyday resentments — petty arguments, misunderstandings, or missed chances. Do they sting? Sure. Do they still matter? Probably not. However, if someone has deeply hurt or traumatized you, that’s a different story — one that deserves proper healing, ideally with the help of a qualified therapist.
5. Stop running from difficult emotions.
Some people avoid negativity by saying things like “Only good vibes” or “Stay positive.” But that’s toxic positivity. Denying yourself the right to feel anger, sadness, or fear prevents you from processing pain and moving forward. When you bury those feelings, they don’t disappear — they linger and resurface later, often disrupting your peace or happiness down the line.
6. Don’t fear the unknown.
It’s easy to cling to what feels familiar because it feels safe. But comfort doesn’t always equal happiness. Sometimes it means staying stuck — in an unfulfilling job or an unhappy relationship — simply because it’s predictable. The truth is, nothing is ever completely certain. So take control, step into uncertainty, and create change. Few things are sadder than choosing misery just because it’s familiar.
7. Step outside your comfort zone.
Many people miss out on amazing experiences because they refuse to take risks. If you want a more fulfilling life, get comfortable being uncomfortable. Nervous about socializing? Go anyway. Scared to go back to school? Do it anyway. Growth and happiness rarely come without a little discomfort — but the rewards are worth it.
8. Stop pretending you can do everything alone.
Being smart or capable doesn’t mean you have to handle everything yourself. The most successful people recognize their limits and seek help when they need it. That’s not weakness — it’s wisdom. Everyone has strengths and blind spots. Focus on what you’re great at, and don’t hesitate to ask for support in the areas where you’re not. Life becomes much easier — and more enjoyable — that way.
9. Let go of perfectionism.
That flawless job, partner, or house you imagine? It doesn’t exist. Perfection is an illusion, carefully curated and never real. There’s nothing wrong with striving for your best fit, but chasing the impossible keeps you from appreciating genuine opportunities for growth and joy. And even if you find something that seems perfect, you may realize it’s not what you truly wanted after all.
10. Don’t drift through life without direction.
A life without goals can feel empty and unfulfilling. Setting meaningful targets — even small ones like finishing chores or saving for a trip — gives you a sense of purpose. Goals motivate you to problem-solve, take risks, and evolve. They spark passion and determination, leading to personal growth and a happier, more purposeful life.
11. Stop neglecting your relationships.
When life takes over, it can be hard to find the time or energy to socialize. We’re fooled into thinking we’re maintaining relationships by forwarding memes or reacting with emojis, but socializing through a screen just isn’t the same. You can alleviate some loneliness from it, but the physical presence of a person provides psychological and physiological benefits you just don’t get through a screen. Don’t let life get in the way – keep those physical connections alive as you get older.
12. Stop resenting the aging process.
People fight and struggle to maintain their youth. Others limit themselves based on their age. Ok, you’re probably not going to climb Mount Everest at age 60 (unless you’re well-conditioned and athletic) but limiting yourself when it comes to self-improvement isn’t sensible. You’re probably in a better position to succeed at certain things now because you have more life experience. You won’t be able to do everything the younger you could, but there will be different opportunities open to you. There’s no shame in getting older. Many people are denied that privilege. So why not enjoy it.